WOW! This is a LOADED one.
First, I want to point out that this is, indeed, a very common issue.
Whether it applies to your cat, dog, hamster, and sometimes even you child, it DOES impact your relationship, A TON!
On a broad spectrum, does this matter?
The short answer is YES!
In general, this would imply that some of the most important things in your life, matter little to none to your significant other. Sure, everyone likes different things. You don’t have to enjoy all of the same things for a relationship to work. Heck, you don’t have to like half the things, but the most important of those things, you should have a general agreement on, or at least, a pass on.
I would want more detail on the magnitude of the situation in order to properly comment on this.
For instance, does your S.O DEMAND the cat be removed?
Are they MEAN to the cat?
Also, is your cat an asshole?
A great example is my puppy Athena. She’s… well a dog of certain taste. She has a ton of energy, and she loves people… almost too much. I find myself apologizing for her sloppy, forceful kisses, often straight on the mouth, when you walk in the door. I find myself putting her in her kennel when older people or younger children are in the home. She doesn’t know her weight, or her reach for that matter, in most situations, and while she means no harm, she also has no manners, which can equal disaster.
Is she horrible, of course not.
Is she overwhelming at times? Absolutely.
I understand that in order to have patience for her, you may have to be a world class “dog person”.
HOWEVER, that being said. I love animals. I have an array of animals.
Could I picture my life without that nutcase, fit for a straight jacket at times, dog? NO.
I guess what I am saying here, is while it’s okay to be different, on a fundamental level, you NEED the person you plan on sharing your life with, to love those already in it, and accept you for who you love as well.
Now, on to YOUR question, how to make them get along.
I feel like a broken record when I say this, but for godsake, TALK to them!
NO, not that cat, dummy, your S.O. Your cat is clearly important to you, and rightfully so. They are like a child, or best friend, depending on what day it is, so would any sane person expect you to treat your child that way? NO. Have that conversation.
Secondly, FIND A MIDDLE GROUND. Track number 2 on that broken record says you should also assume that, like a parent to a flesh and blood human baby, your S.O might want your attention… well, all to themselves, on occasion, so it might not be all that bad to remove the cat from the room from time to time, but if you want to spend any longer period of time with your S.O in the home, you might want to make it clear that you will be allowing the kitty to sleep with you more often than not, if that’s how you feel about it.
From the sounds of it, however, he simply is not a “cat person” and is not willing to make what seems like a simple sacrifice for the good of your relationship, even while he’s still trying to get in your good graces. What other things is he going to “share” his annoyance with in the future?
I’m not saying get rid of his, just yet. Try tracks 1 and 2 first.
If those don’t work out, maybe it’s time to change the tune, and get a new S.O?
As always, this is just an opinion, and if you have your own, have shared an experience like this as well, leave them in the comments below!
Special thanks to a social media STAR ;) who sent this my way! THANKS!